Troubles and way to handle them.

As an individual, I would like to talk about my problems/troubles with people who could guide me handling it.
Could find a good reason why it needs to be shared even some one close to you who can't help you out on this?

There is always a replacement.

I believe it is more of law of a nature to have a replacement. The replacement could be in the form of reducing the dependency or having some thing in place which is dropped out.

If you look in any organization the position will be refilled or will be removed (if there is no dependency) once person leaves the organization (Person leaving the organization include he leaving the world.).

Same case in personal life also, we may not replace the person as fast as organization replaces but definitely we look forward for either reducing the dependency or ask others to full fill our needs.

Nothing stops having missed some one.. It is hard to find some one who does not look for the replacement and try to do the things him self that are must to make the living.

Is it always a mix of swartha and Tirtha..

The meaning of swartha is that you look for you self and Tirtha is that you look for others needs also.
Most of us would say the work/decision that you have taken is not for yours need but it is the need of some close to you.. but most of the cases it would include the need of mine when I make  decisions..

-> A man with two kids making decision to marry again (after loosing the first wife), this include need of a man and need of kids. It will be unfair to say that the second marriage is to take care of kids for his/her personal need.

It will be very hard to have a decision where only one will benefit..